I am bad. Not terrible, but, I deserve all the bad things happening me because I’m not a good person. Now I think there’s worse things than being a bad person in this world but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m bad.
Being aware of your own shortcomings and that you don’t like them is a gargantuan milestone, OP.
Most people are in extreme denial about who they are, and what their shortcomings are, and it leaves them very poor in regards to the potential to grow.
If you’re aware of and acknowledging things you don’t like about yourself: that’s actually a huge and powerful thing. You know what the things are about yourself that you that you want to improve.
Always remember, you don’t have to change completely overnight or anything, like you’re freaking Ebenezer Scrooge being visited by ghosts.
You can start by picking any one opportunity you see about yourself. “I don’t like that I (negative trait/action), so today I’m going to focus on (doing something positive regarding that trait/action).” Focus on that for a while… find joy when you succeed in being better. Don’t beat yourself up when you fail… just look at it as more opportunity to grow. Over time as you’re establishing positive habits, you can add new things to work on.
Your knowledge that you are on a journey of improvement and your determination are your superpowers.
I will say that if you decide that you want to grow for the better, definitely check in with the pros if you can, and not just random folks like me on the internet. But my point is, your self-acknowledgement is HUGE, and can be a tool you use to chisel your way to a better you. Don’t dwell on the past and keep beating yourself up about it… instead use it as your base to climb from. You’ve got this if you want it.
Yes, came in here to say that, the fact they’re aware of their shortcomings puts them way ahead of the pack already.
I deserve all the bad things happening me
No you don’t. You do deserve living with and processing feelings of remorse about what you’ve done. You can give yourself a pass on things you think but don’t act on. Mostly, you deserve the grueling task of changing to become a better person.
This is what is called a shame spiral. How do you get out of it? As this reply said give yourself a pass. Being able to identify negative self-talk is the first step to being able to lift yourself out of it. For me learning to identify and exit the spiral of shame has had a huge positive effect on my mental health and made existence more tolerable.
I’m not so sure about that. Some people deserve the bad… they made a choice.
Wtf
I don’t necessarily think I’m a bad person and I have meet very few people who I think are "bad persons” even if people can act very badly in the moment.
And for you, I think it’s kinda bad for your mental health going around thinking your a bad person and that you therefore deserve that bad things happen to you. But of course it may very well not be a problem for you so you do you. Being able to realise that your not perfect and maybe even flawed in some sense can also be a good trait for someone to have. Too self confident people can be really annoying
When I get pretty low, I hear the same things in my head as OP. I have journal entries that are strikingly similar to what OP wrote.
It’s a bit uncanny, I have never come across another person that feels, at least it seems, the way I do. I know it’s irrational to feel this way. I bet OP knows it too, deep down. But I can’t escape the feeling, and clearly they cannot either.
yep
That largely depends on who you talk to.
Christofascists think I’m bad. White supremacists, white nationalists, racists, anti-vaxers, neo-Nazis and Nazis, anti-choicers, anti-maskers, Covid deniers, vegan extremists, incels and incucks, Puritans, the US Taliban, magats and the anti-reality crowd, the convoyists, the Save-The-Children crowd and Queen Dildo and her ragtag band of morons, the rabid pro-gun I’m terrified of everything so I need a grenade launcher to buy donuts crowd, and others think I’m bad but so do the tankies, and trans extremists, the anti-gun crowd, and others who hate the first group. Just about everyone who lives in an echo bunker would think I’m bad.
I do things that many people think are bad but they tend to be the conflict what other people do mob but generally I think I’m a good passion and the people around me seem to think so too no matter where they lie on the preproduction, religious, or social spectrum.
Yes.
No. A little selfish and lazy sometimes, but not what I would consider bad.
I’ll have to take your word for it, but I have my doubts! Regardless, I feel like it’s better to focus on whether you are doing or have done bad things, than to worry about whether you’re an inherently bad person. You can always work to do better in the future, and to make amends.
Trust me I’m not good.
I’m certainly not a virtuous person but I don’t think I’m categorically bad.
If you know you’re bad, didn’t that make you good?
Nice try copper.
I think morally I am good but a failure in many ways. I am broken and get in my own way when it comes to living a full life. But I am not wronging other people for the most part, just myself. Morality/ethics in general is very complex and subjective with two different interpretations of the same action giving wildly different judgements.
OP, why do you believe you are on the whole bad?
I wish I could tell you but the fuckers controlling this place hate sad posting , I already got banned once.
They banned you for breaking an unwritten rule? I don’t see anything in the rules about sad posts or even self disparagement.
There isn’t. But you already see someone here complaining about this post
Are you referring to the guy calling you a cop?
And another guy complaining
There’s 5 guys already… I’m thinking of deleting this. Fucking people
Shamone.
Oh look another pity party
OP’s on his 4th account! This one was created less than an hour after the last one got banned.
For those curious, first it was @fookreddit69@lemm.ee, then it was @Kimdracula@lemm.ee, then it was @BlowMe@lemmy.world, and now this.
