He didn’t cheat on her, but that doesn’t mean she was obligated to be ok with what he did. If he wanted to have a chance with her ever again, sleeping with someone else while they were on a break (or even immediately after breaking up) was a stupid thing to do. Part of Ross’ problem was he was so focused on the technicality that they weren’t actively together instead of the reality that it still was obviously going to hurt her.
That’s perfectly fair, but don’t expect the original person to want to get back together with you then. It’s not about whether it was ok for him to have sex with that girl, it’s whether or not Rachel was justified to not want to get back together because of it. Which she was. And he knew it, or he wouldn’t have immediately tried to hide it.
I wouldn’t date someone so weird about sex, but Rachel was wrong here as she is most of the time, because her arc is her learning how to be a functioning person
One day after breakup you will have some lingering feelings and hooking up with someone else just to suppress them is not a healthy reflex I think. Especially if the other person doesnt know youre with them just to strike a “hit” and feel less shitty with yourself.
I’ve been in breakups where I immediately got with someone else and I’ve been in breakups where I wanted to take some time on my own afterwards. Feelings are complicated and there’s no right answer to every situation.
No I view being dumped as something that makes me sad and getting laid as a shot in the arm that cures the sads for a little bit so I don’t become a mopey fuck
He didn’t cheat on her, but that doesn’t mean she was obligated to be ok with what he did. If he wanted to have a chance with her ever again, sleeping with someone else while they were on a break (or even immediately after breaking up) was a stupid thing to do. Part of Ross’ problem was he was so focused on the technicality that they weren’t actively together instead of the reality that it still was obviously going to hurt her.
Yeah that’s why it made good TV, they’re both right. Not cheating but still hurt her feelings which is a good enough reason to break up with him.
Literally the first thing I would do when I got dumped is go fuck someone else.
It’s absurd to break up with someone and expect them to not go live their life.
That’s perfectly fair, but don’t expect the original person to want to get back together with you then. It’s not about whether it was ok for him to have sex with that girl, it’s whether or not Rachel was justified to not want to get back together because of it. Which she was. And he knew it, or he wouldn’t have immediately tried to hide it.
I wouldn’t date someone so weird about sex, but Rachel was wrong here as she is most of the time, because her arc is her learning how to be a functioning person
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I guess if you’re viewing your relationship as a form of restriction.
i think it is more like emotional distance?
its creepy to intentionally not be with someone else after a breakup because there is some weird lingering feelings. like get over it move on
One day after breakup you will have some lingering feelings and hooking up with someone else just to suppress them is not a healthy reflex I think. Especially if the other person doesnt know youre with them just to strike a “hit” and feel less shitty with yourself.
I’ve been in breakups where I immediately got with someone else and I’ve been in breakups where I wanted to take some time on my own afterwards. Feelings are complicated and there’s no right answer to every situation.
It’s not healthy, but rebounds are perfectly understandable. Like getting drunk alone after a break up
No I view being dumped as something that makes me sad and getting laid as a shot in the arm that cures the sads for a little bit so I don’t become a mopey fuck