• ilost7489@lemmy.ca
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    1 month ago

    I guess you could argue whether it was important to bring it up here, but you didn’t say that in your original comment. Your original comment was extending the idea that gender doesn’t matter to assert that proper pronouns aren’t needed in discussions. These are two separate (although sort of joined) ideas

    “Gender doesn’t matter” means that people should be able to do whatever regardless of their gender. They shouldn’t face discrimination if they’re male, female, trans, etc. It does not mean gender is not important in conversation as it certainly is to show that you respect someone. People won’t get mad if you use “they” to refer to them (or, if they do, they’re just an ass) but many people do get mad if you assume “he” or “she” because they’ll take it as a sign that you disrespect them or think they’re lesser because of their gender.

    Also, the tone of your first comments makes you sound like, for lack of a better word, an asshole. Don’t be surprised when people down vote when you go after someone like that

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      1 month ago

      You can’t reason with them. They seem incapable of basic critical thinking and reasoning.

    • StopJoiningWars@discuss.online
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      1 month ago

      Your first definition of gender not mattering is exactly right, and if the person doesn’t show up to correct the use of pronouns then who cares.

      There is no “honour” to defend for a random unknown individual. It’s just for self validation or so that people who do such things feel like they belong to the “tribe” or whatever. Tribalism is the stupidest reason to use pronouns.

      • ilost7489@lemmy.ca
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        1 month ago

        Did you even read my comment? I was saying that you said nothing about that second point in your original comment and that’s why people are going after you. Asking if pointing out people misgendering by accident is necessary is one question. Stating that pronouns don’t matter in an agressive matter is another