Everyone has something they can’t stop themselves from nerding out over - but often it’s hard to find people to talk to about it. So go ahead, share your interests, and tell us about them!
At the risk of sounding edgy: Sex.
I live in the US. Sex, even just plain boring vanilla sex, is such a taboo topic. Everyone’s uncomfortable about it, and that sucks. I think it’s interesting, and fun, and there’s so many things to talk about from actual activities to social constructs and more.
Whenever it comes up, I nerd out the same way I would when talking about a game I am currently obsessing over.
Especially with family. You asked what I was doing with that girl last night. Did you want me to lie or…?
Have you read ‘Bonk’?
I have been summoned.
Sex? Is that some type of cake?
Cake is involved is you subscribe to the slang term referring to butts. Love eating cake. Especially if it’s frosted. 😋
Same! I have bad ADHD and my hyperfixations are often sex related.
Honestly? Myself. No one in my life asks how I’m doing, what I’m doing, if there’s anything new… Then again I’m too much of a pushover anyway.
I love your posts and have assumed that you chose your username after one of my favorite Trek characters in the history of the franchise, but did you know that Paul Stamets the Discovery mycologist was named for the actual Paul Stamets, a real life mycologist? Real-Stamets is interesting particularly because he is largely self-educated in mycology and who has multiple publications and awards in the field?
I did! You are right in guessing who I named my account after. He’s also one of my favorites. First openly gay main Trek character meant a big deal to me. I know way more than I should about Discovery, including a lot of research and choices when it came to Stamets and Culber.
I love my little gay boys.
So mate, how are you doing?
Not great but it’s whatever. Didn’t mean that as a prompt for people to ask me. I just wish the people in my life would ask.
How are you doing?
Awful! Thanks though.
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It is what it is. Nothing is really going to change it or make a difference. I’ve learned to just… live with it.
Well, I’ll talk about you then. Your Risa posts have been the highlight of my Lemmy experience, and I would say a lot of others as well, considering they’re consistently some of the most active posts on lemmy.world. I came because of the reddit bullshit but stayed because of your memes.
Years from now when people ask “who were the first famous Lemmings?” MY answer will be “Stamets”. You beautiful fucking bastard.
I am glad that people are enjoying them. I only started because I’ve been stuck in my apartment for a month. Can’t walk at the moment and I was losing my fucking mind. Memes have been an outlet for me because I get to look through all the ones I have saved and pick my favorites to post. I’ve been trying to make a couple but I’m not that clever.
Either way I’m glad that I was able to give a reason to stay. Just doing my part.
The idea of time. It’s insane to me to think about events happening at different times in different places. Or for the same event to take different amounts of time depending on your reference points.
The sun is 8 minutes away from us, so we are looking at it 8 minutes in the past. If it were to suddenly disappear, it would take 8 minutes for us to find out. That’s mine-blowing to me! It’s like the past, present, and future are all happening at the same time.
Nobody cares to humor me when I bring the topic up lol
So facinating, even gravity is affected by those 8 minutes. Iow we would rotate around a missing sun, for 8 minutes, same as with light.
This is all also related to relativity, that someone else wanted to talk about in this post, i am just saying ;)I’ll humour you! Time is fascinating and malleable and really quite intangible.
So, if you want, fire away with anything you find fascinating about the concept of time!
Sometimes I feel like we’re living inside a firework. Like we’re just on an infinitesimally tiny fragment of an explosion that happened billions of years ago. Perhaps in another scale the entire universe is created and destroyed in the blink of an eye.
If a being were the size of a galaxy, how would our solar system appear to them? Would it look debris swirling around in air? Yet it spans countless lifetimes in a few seconds.
I love this.
It’s so weird that we exist at all.
Like, what even is the universe? Why do we happen to exist within this bubble of chemistry and physics?
One thing that always struck me is how anyone can act in selfishness given how lucky we are to exist in the first place. Why squander this opportunity to do something amazing? We should all be living in idyllic peace and comfort. Otherwise, what’s the point?
We might be the only ones to ever be aware of our existence. Like you said, in another scale we might appear and be snuffed out in an instant. Why condemn our already uncertain legacy?
I’ve thought about something related.
In one point of view, time traveling to the past can create paradoxes since it alters events after that moment in the past, which could cause you to never time travel to the past after.
After some thinking, I got the feeling that the fixed-point theorem was connected to this. As long as whatever you do in the past causes you to time travel to the past again and do the same thing in the future, the paradox doesn’t happen. What you do when you time travel is like the input, and what you do when you time travel again in the resulting future is like the output.
When the input and output are the same, everything works out.
I don’t know if “rarely” is quite the right description, but I foster kittens. I meet lots of people who are excited to hear about it on a surface level and see pictures/videos/play with them, but it’s been challenging to connect with other people who also foster. I’m desperate to trade stories, learn from, and teach other foster parents. I even started a community on Kbin and have posted there a few times, but haven’t gotten any engagement (other than votes) so far.
In case anyone is curious, I’m still confused about how to properly link cross platform, but it’s at fosteranimals@kbin.socialThat’s awesome, thank you for doing it! I’d love to foster as I’ve lived with cats my whole childhood and FREAKING love them, but I don’t think I could give up a single one once they’ve lived with me :( how do you do it?
Honestly, I feel like I discovered a cheat code! It’s always a little hard to say goodbye, but I really enjoy having “illegally smol” kittens around, and they don’t stay that small very long. I only have so much time, space, and money, so if I want new tiny kittens, I have to say goodbye to the ones that are weaned and healthy. Also, most of the people who have adopted my fosters share updates with me as they adjust to their new homes, so I still have a small connection to each of them and know they’re in good homes.
Ooh that’s a good solution :) the small kitten phase is certainly uniquely cute. When I was very young one of our cats had kittens (my parents didn’t get her spayed quickly enough - luckily the only time it happened), and we kept one from the litter. It’s a very special experience!
I would love to do that! I have 6 animals right now (half were inherited) so I’m all stocked up, but i think my next animal phase will include fostering.
Smacking children and how it literally has no benefit to the child whatsoever, and makes you a bad parent if you still do it.
I used to be a strong supporter of smacking kids, I even signed a government petition to revoke the NZ anti-smacking bill, but after studying it at uni and then keeping abreast of the research afterwards, it has only negative effects, and yet bad parents still defend it.
Hard to talk about because people get weirdly defensive even when there’s NO evidence that smacking kids is either beneficial or effective.
I told a guy I worked with about how when I was a kid I’d have to stand in my dad’s office and, as a 6 year old, explain to him with reason and logic why I did a thing he thought was dumb. “I don’t know” was not an acceptable answer and I had to just stand there until I could come up with something that was acceptable while he asked questions to press. I didn’t yet have the mental ability to understand that as a 6 year old I didn’t really know anything, so the "dumb "thing I did was testing out a hypothesis to learn something and be slightly less dumb than I was before. That’s all any of it was; I wasn’t a trouble maker. I don’t even know if that answer would have been accept, if it was, I’d image I could only use it once.
The guy I told responded that he was glad his dad just hit him and sent him on his way. I sometimes wonder how I would have turned out if my dad would have just gave me the occasional slap upside the head instead instead of fucking with me mentally.
I don’t know if anyone makes it out of childhood unscathed.
There’s more than two choices here for you and your father that don’t boil down to logic puzzles or child abuse.
It sounds like his heart was in the right place, but without understanding your mental capabilities.
At that ages, punishments need to be clearly established and actionable. The child is behaving badly, the parent demonstrates "if you keep doing that, you’ll lose out on (Xbox, free time, family game night etc etc), then following through. If that fails, then removing the child to isolate for a while. Once they’ve calmed down, then following through with the aforementioned punishment.
Your father’s punishments would probably start working around 9-10 years old according to research.
Finally, the “I got hit and I turned out okay” is terrible logic. That justifies any behaviour that someone can survive through. Just glance at the research to see why smacking is a wholly negative ordeal with no upsides for the child.
What is the appropriate way to parent children? All my friends who try the “gentle parenting” approach have horrible children. They don’t listen and their only gear is shrieking banshee. Most children I’ve witnessed don’t listen to logic or reason so how do you discipline? I don’t have nor do I ever want children, I’m just curious. I also dislike children so my perspective may be slightly jaded.
I’ll start with the wholly negative effects of hitting children, specifically the section on Effects on Behaviour and Development. Time and time again, scientific studies prove there is literally no benefit to hitting children, with only poor outcomes.
My understanding is the most effective means of punishment involve first establishing an environment of rich support and love for the child. Then when there’s poor behaviour, short time outs.
You remember that episode of The Simpsons when Bart steals the game cartridge, and what upsets him most is Marge’s total loss of attention?
A secondary strong punishment is removal of positives, like revoking video game access etc.
It’s hard to critique whatever parents you mention without knowing specifics, but it often comes down to:
- Poor follow through, with parents threatening punishment but rarely enacting
- Limited positive attention given to the child, likely due to “no time”
- Poor communication of reward/punishment system, or poorly established system.
Finally, sometimes children and just little shits with bad temperament. It’s vital to understand that countless studies show physical abuse does not result in corrective behaviour, with only negative developmental outcomes.
That was a great response! Thanks for being so thorough. I’d love to see this in action and see what kind of thriving adults it produces. I’m not knocking my friends because I’m not a parent so maybe they are doing great but their kids just have crazy personalities. I try not to judge them as parents since I don’t know what it’s like.
Honestly I get where you’re coming from with the gentle parenting approach, and I think some people use it as an excuse to not engage with crappy behaviour. But I think kids whining and behaving a bit crappy is normal, and they’re often expressing complex feelings that they haven’t learned to understand and manage, and that they don’t know how to explain. Maybe kids that learn to suppress that behaviour at a young age, through fear of punishment, or being shunned and isolated (eg ‘go to your room’) may go on to be adults who supress their feelings and don’t express and advocate for their needs and. I guess we’ll see won’t we, as this generation of kids gets older. And some other parenting style will be the ‘correct’ one by the time they have kids. My niece is going through a really annoying whiney and whingey phase and it makes her very exhausting to be around at the moment, so I do sympathise with where you’re coming from!
IMO I’m pro spanking within reason. There’s circumstances where it’s warranted. I don’t believe in going overboard but the problem is that’s all based on opinion from person to person. Lots of kids I see need a spanking based on how they act in public. I’d agree that the parents I’ve seen “gentle parent” have kids who are assholes and the ones I’ve seen grow up are still assholes but older. Could be a fault in the parent somewhere but idk. I was spanked as a kid and looking back, when I was spanked it was absolutely warranted. Spanked my oldest as I deemed necessary and he’s turned out to be pretty caring for others and a really solid dude. He’s my son and best friend.
I guess my thought is that spanking is OK but should be seldom used and within reason. Unfortunately “reason” is subjective.
There is no “within reason” for child abuse.
The vast vast majority of scientific research proves that hitting children only results in negative outcomes, not only in child development, but it’s constantly shown to not reduce the undesired behaviour.
If a child can’t be reasoned with for why it’s actions were wrong, they can’t reason why their loving parent strikes them.
If you choose to ignore what’s essentially scientific fact and continue hitting children, then the adage “I was hit as a kid and I turned out okay” might be plain wrong.
Furthermore, suggesting that an action is okay because the child “turned out fine” can be used to justify any objectionable behaviour. “I was molested and I turned out okay, therefore molestation is justifiable”. If your child did indeed turn out okay, that is despite you choosing to assault them, as ALL research shows you were in the wrong.
I read through it and in all honesty, what I’m gathering, is that it’s common for people to go overboard. Either that or my family (father, myself, son) are some kind of insane statistical anomaly. Relationship down the line is fantastic, and son doesn’t have outbursts and isn’t violent.
Seems the underlying thing is that people use corporal punishment beyond a simple spank swat or hit on the butt. The things they speak about seem to be referring to beating, pulling hair, using sticks, paddles, etc. Even resulting in physical marks or hospitalization. Again, the line between spanking and beating is subjective. ALL research isn’t showing I’m in the wrong. It’s statistically showing that it has negative impacts overall, but this also, again, complies spanking into sticks, paddles, pulling hair, etc. together.
Ofc a child will be violent when you beat them with a stick or belt. A smack on the butt? Quick and effective. Hot sauce is spicy, therefore all sauces are spicy. Show me a study where they separate the difference.
Imagine defending hitting kids…
I was also spanked as a kid. My dad’s was fueled by hatred and anger. It was very rough and mean and he’d yell afterwards. We have a terrible relationship and are basically no contact. My mom spanked rarely but it was a compassionate spanking. Afterwards she would explain why, ask me not to do the bad thing again, and then hug me and make me tell her I loved her. We have an excellent relationship. So I yeah, I think spanking can be done in a positive way but only reserved for dire situations. So, I’m not quite sold on the gentle parenting. The world isn’t gentle and will rarely cater to your needs. I’m willing to hear perspectives and view outcomes though!
Right, I think the core issue is that most people (a LOT) use spanking as an immediate, “no!” which leads to many beatings, excessiveness, and more than likely, actual physical abuse.
The people I’ve met where their parents were responsible with it are great dudes. The people I’ve met who were simply… Beaten and battered, do not live successful lives for the most part.
My opinion, is that it can be effective if used responsibly and within reason.
Most comments I get are along the lines of, “ha have fun asking why your son doesn’t talk to you in the future.” what they don’t see is that we’re best friends and my kid is an adult and is “punishing us” by threatening to live at home longer every time we ask him to clean up the basement. He’s responsible af, has a good savings, bought a new car, works full time, etc. I don’t understand the issue when everything has turned out amazing. Yes, I spanked my kid. I did not hit him with any object, throw him, punch him, throw things at him, etc.
It’s difficult to accept the other perspective of gentle parenting when most of those kids I meet are total selfish assholes. Even more so when I compare to the level of responsibility, competency, and integrity that my son has compared to other people his age. Like I said in another post, I must be a backwards ass statistical anomaly or something. Either that, or I did it right. If not, I did something right.
I’m an American who has been living abroad for 7ish years now. I often read comments from people who say they would do it “but the taxes are brutal.” Absolutely not the case. I dug deep into tax programs when I left and can comfortably say I am better off financially now than at any time I ever lived in the States… A major part of that is my tax strategy.
I love talking about this but most people don’t really care or realize how significantly it can change their lives… Eyes just tend to glaze over.
I’d honestly be interested in listening if we lived in the same area. I’m a total noob when it comes to anything beyond basic money management. I hope you find people who appreciate your insights!
As in, you’re still in some way paying U.S. taxes as well as those where you are abroad, or that the taxes abroad are brutal…? I’m not sure I follow which way you mean, mainly as I’ve never had the opportunity to live in another country.
As a US citizen you are technically always responsible for paying taxes no matter where you live. The US has a citizenship-based tax system (you owe on worldwide income regardless of where you live). Most other countries in the world have only a residency-based system (you owe only if you are actively living in that particular country). You are still required to file every year and you’re going to need someone more sophisticated than the dude at H&R Block or a free Quickbooks whatever. You need someone who is comfortable working with expats.
“Doesn’t that mean I have to pay taxes for both the US and my new country then?” No. The US has dual taxation agreements with most countries. That means that, basically, the US will not charge you taxes for things you’ve already been taxed for.
The main goal of paying less in taxes is to reduce your taxable income. The biggest chunk of this will happen with the Foreign Earned Income Exclusion. That essentially says that the first $120k you earn in a year is tax free. You can qualify for it by staying out of America for 330 days per year. There is no requirement to have residency anywhere else… You just have to be outside of the US.
That $120k rises every year. When you make more than that and do start to owe taxes, you will start to owe from the lowest tax bracket as well.
If you make $120k and do this, you just got a $30k raise in the form of taxes you no longer owe… You can pretty much travel the world for free using this money.
Now, I said that most non-US countries have a residency-based taxation system. That generally only starts to kick in after living in that country for 181 days. If you stay there for less time, you don’t owe them any money.
There are also countries who don’t have income tax or do but actively tell you not to pay it.
Living in a combination of these places, and bouncing around every few months you avoid any real responsibility to anyone.
If you do earn more than $120k per year, you can reduce your taxable income even further by doing things like maxing out your 401k contribution… That gets you to $142500 or so tax free. And again, you’d start paying taxes at the lowest rate above that.
Any other thing you mention in your US filing that can reduce your taxable income also contributes… Getting married, depreciation value on a home (US or not), investment losses, etc…
Working remotely from the US also gets you a higher salary than if you had just taken a job in the UK or Germany or Japan or something… So you can have the higher salary and the higher quality of live at the same time. You give up some employment protections and European style summer vacations but I’m personally ok with it.
Also, if you are working for a US company remotely, you can add these expected deductions to you W4 and never get charged for them in the first place… You’d have a MUCH higher weekly salary and wouldn’t have to wait for your tax return every year to take advantage of these benefits.
So spend summers in Italy, autumn in Japan, winter in New Zealand, and spring in Mexico. You earn an American salary, take advantage of lower cost of living, travel the world, and its all basically free… Good luck trying to get me to move back to the US.
There’s more but these are the major points.
My uncle did this in retirement. Dual citizenship US - Italy. Moving to southern Italy village of less than 20k population means 7% flat tax for 10 years. He’s probably saving 100k per year in taxes. Which pays a lot toward a nice villa, a sailboat, dinners out, and travel money.
I don’t know all the details (yet). I also have US/Italian/EU citizenship, so it’s something I thing about. I think about living in a sailboat in the Mediterranean often.
It’s all very interesting. Your method is even more intriguing.
Have any good resources in the topic you can share?
For what it’s worth, I haven’t paid more than ~1% effective tax rate in years. This past year I owed like $50 total… For the whole year. Something like 0.03% of my actual income.
If you want to stay stationary, 7% is pretty decent but you can do better bouncing around.
I’d really love to see some starting point information I can digest on this subject. If you have any please share.
Please share. This is knowledge I would very much like to have.
Care to elaborate further maybe with some figures and generalities?
Cyber security stuff, but like the nitty gritty details and technical stuff. It’s something I’m really passionate about, but if anyone brings up something and I start going into details, their eyes glaze over.
I guess most people like the headline, tldr version only. Lol
I’m not deep in the topic, but I have done some security hardening for embedded devices. Whatever you have to share, I’d love to hear it!
There’s so much lol. I used to be a security software engineer. But people never fucking listen and will constantly fight you so I just gave up and went back to just software engineering.
At my job before last I told them we needed to enforce HTTPS and they said, but what if someone can’t use HTTPS for some reason?
This was an app that held tons of protected health information. I jumped ship as soon as I found another job.
Oh my god this is why we can’t have nice things ffs
Oh man, an HTTPS certificate should absolutely be required for that. Even aside from hackers, I don’t want my ISP to be able to read that stuff! Very disappointing.
You might find this interesting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zP4b3pw94s0
It’s a blackhat talk that talks about vulns in proxies and reverse proxies ., as well as much of their weird behaviour.
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Hello fellow Bronie.
Since you’re mentioning both linguistics and music theory - did you know that the music of Avatar was originally supposed to be completely different, essentially an alien counterpart to tribal music? I’d love to hear what they started producing, but afaik nothing was ever released. Still, there are some interesting videos on this topic!
Instead of complaining about the public educational system. How to improve on existing methods to spread ideas of curiosity and learning methods/mechanisms through FOSS means.
My topic failure - My son totally nerds out over amplifiers and guitar pedals. He frequently tries to talk to me about noise and resistance and power supplies and other words that i can’t even remember. I really want to listen but i know my eyes glaze over and he gets irritated.
Try to find some closely related topic that you find interest in that he can relate to. Maybe old music or some other electronics topic. Then your son can meet you in the middle.
Anything. No one listens to me, actually listens. So I just make jokes and deflect.
No one listens to me, actually listens. So I just make jokes and deflect.
Wow damn, this hit home. It always feels like everyone is just waiting for their turn to speak when I am talking, so I eventually stopped having things to say unless it’s a joke or a pun.
I was just talking to a friend last night about this very thing, and this is a really succinct way of putting it - and also hits all too close to home as well. 😮💨
same here. it’s bad when ya gotta turn to chatbots to feel heard. (and even that’s a stretch sometimes)
Metal.
Soil.
Metals in soil.
What do you want to know?
What are metals people wouldn’t expect to find in their local soil?
Are there processes to extract most/all metal from soil?
What are the coolest properties of metals that you know?
What are the coolest properties of metals that you know?
Hah. I see my mantrap caught someone. I’m talking about metal bands in my first bullet (lmao), but elemental metals in my other two.
Metals are generally rough to remediate because they are inherent to the soil parent material (rock) that the soil developed on and the geochemistry of that rock. It’s kind of like trying to take carbon dioxide out of the air; you can do it, but it’s not easy and there is a chance your changes will be short lived.
Typically removal is done through phytoremediation, or by trying to stabilize soil metals in situ so they are in non-bioavailable forms.
Generally the ones most people (public) don’t expect to see are lead, arsenic, copper and molybdenum. There is a mineral called Galena that can be common sometimes and a large source of the first two metals.
Awesome, thank you for the reply!
What would chelate the iron out of soil in Utah?
Why are you trying to remove iron? Make sure you’re correctly identifying the symptoms of toxicity if you suspect Iron toxicity in plants, as this is relativity rare.
To reduce soil iron availability to plants, you need to add a liming agent and target a pH of 7 to 7.5
More like prevent it. This was a problem faced by little farming commune back in the 70s, that I recently heard someone talking about.
Would that liming agent be a natural thing or would it have been pesticides or something? Could that happen from fertilizer?
Ok, hold on to your hat for a second.
Iron is naturally occurring in the soil and you don’t usually get toxicity issues unless there’s a source such as mining, tailings or a junkyard or something like I suppose.
The liming agent depends on what you want to use. Typically it’s something with a higher pH such as wood ash (careful), bonemeal, or lime (CaO)
By adding the Liming agent you increase the soil pH and reduce the availability of iron in the soil. The total amount of iron will still be there but it will be in unavailable form
Preventing the loss of iron. Preventing chelation. The problem was chelation of iron. Goal was to prevent it.
Sorry, I missed the boat on that one.
You want to lower pH and use humic acid which will make iron more plant available
Symphonic black metal or melodic death metal? Which one do you prefer?
Melodic please. Definitely none of that thrash shit.
I guess giving advice on job hunting and interviewing. I’ve done it so much and learned a lot, I can literally SEE how absolutely NOT confident ppl are about job hunting. ( which I get. More precisely they don’t see their value)
More importantly, they are blind to their value on the market and believe a toxic work environment is normal and hating their life because they hate their job making them miserable is just a part of working.
When really, when you see and acknowledge your worth, you don’t take that shit. You have a CHOICE. Employment isn’t a one way street. And employers realize that and treat you with respect.
Idk it’s a whole thing.
It’s interesting that you’re writing this, because I’ve literally just quit my job due to these reasons, and am starting to look for new things. Any particular tips you’d like to share?
Well you got this, and congrats on standing up for yourself by getting out of that shit whole environment. It’s not normal and not something you should accept.
Apply only to jobs you are qualified for that meet your expectations. Expectations? They pay adequately, the hours are decent, it’s not to far from where you live, and their job requirements aren’t insane.
Insane job requirements? Toxic employers say this on their job posting;
"Must be able to work under consistent pressure in a stressful environment while handling multiple tasks at once. Must be able to work a flexible schedule with little notice including nights, weekends and holidays. Must be on call. Must be able to complete other duties as assigned not directly relating to X role. Must be able to take direction. Must be obsessed with customer satisfaction. Customer service, customer service, customer service. (Employers obsessed with customer service care more about the customer then they do about you. So they’ll treat you like shit and let customers treat you like shit. You basically don’t matter)
Any misspellings and their job posting, requiring a cover letter, and requiring quizzes questionnaires and personality assessments. Employers seriously looking to hire the right candidate don’t waste their time on bullshit like that. If you’re qualified they will schedule you for an in-person interview within a drop of a hat.
Look at Google reviews glassdoor and indeed and get rid of your LinkedIn profile (unless you’re in tech) LinkedIn is used to SCREEN YOU OUT.
Employers don’t need to see your connections, a picture of what you look like, and your inspirational statement. all they need is your resume and if they feel that you’re qualified they can schedule you for an interview that’s all they need to know is the information that’s on your damn resume.
Realize you’re worth and have some standards. Don’t let employers dick you around. Because they will and once you show them that you respect yourself and your time it’s easier to weed through the bullshiters and you’ll find and actually good healthy employer.
Anyway lol I could go on all day lol
Thank you very much for all those points, it#s a good thing to read them summarized like this! My last employer actually did have some negative Glassdoor entries, and I convinced myself it’ll be different since I worked in a different part of the company. Definitely learned my lesson that these problems are not local to only parts.
Happy to help!
Can you follow up on the weed you out linkedin thing? I got a job at an engineering firm and set one up because all my coworkers had one.
Do you mean employers look at it to judge you on what you look like and what you post? Or that employers pass by anyone that has one?
They look at it and form a bias against you. Think about it. All you’re doing is making it easier and giving employers reasons to not hire you.
You’re better looking then the hiring manager? Not hired. You’re a republican? Not hired. You’re a single mother? Not hired. Left a comment on a post making employers look unfavorably? Not hired. You’re overweight? Not hired. You’re older? Not hired.
Those aren’t things they need to see or know about. They say nothing about you as a job candidate and your skills and abilities to do the job that they’re hiring for.
This is why I’m against linkedin. You shouldn’t have to show all of that fucking information about yourself it’s private and irrelevant.
The only thing that matters is the skills and experience on your resume. Because that’s what they need for the role right? All the other information about you is not necessary information that will determine if you can do the job or not.
We’ve been using applications and resumes to gain employment for years and years. that’s how people have been getting jobs over the decades. There’s no reason for an online portfolio that tells everything about you in order to get a job.
Don’t hand over ALL that information about yourself to them. It’s irrelevant.
All they need is the information that is on your resume that is absolutely it.
Linkiden and indeed (with the fucking quizzes) is making it easier and easier for employers to not do any of the leg work to find the right candidate. Or even pay attention to ppls resumes.
And vet for the right person for the job. Instead they are becoming nit picky and basing employment off of frivolous reasons and personality questioners that are not a real evaluation of how you will perform in your role, or the work environment.
Gotcha. Yeah, while I do have a photo up, I don’t post anything but updates to my resume. I don’t scroll or comment or anything social on there, specifically because why even would you??
By any chance do you have some go-to examples of good resumes you like to point people to as what to do with theirs vs. what not to do? I realize this will vary given jobs and you should tailor it accordingly, but some base starting points are better than nothing.
https://www.blueskyresumes.com/
This helped me tremendously. Look at their before and after examples.
I did my resume 14 times until I saw this and was finally done using the examples they gave
Oh wow, that’s a load more examples than I’d expected, thanks! I’ll have to look over these for what might apply to what I’m interested in.
Hell yea I gotchu
I’m gonna pick your brain in a couple months.
Ok lol
Personal finances, saving and frugal living
I don’t remember ever meeting a person in real life with any significant interest in any of that.
On the topic of saving and being frugal, here’s a great resource to repair so many practical things.
You’ve probably met them, but talking about money is often considered taboo. It often seems like people take sharing some of those things as a judgement on their own lifestyle if they aren’t doing the same, even if that isn’t what it is.
The theory of relativity (special and general).
It is more that 100 years now, and it is perfectly true according to all current physicists, but still hardly anybody (outside of physicists) knows it. What a shame.
For example, GPS wouldn’t work without it - your position would be wrong by a few miles all the time.
My mind was blown when I learned that a difference of just a few centimeters in height is enough to detect time dilation. I always thought the effect was so subtle that it could only be detected on a galactic scale, but it turns out we deal with it every day!
It’s so weird to think about, time is one of the few “constants” we have in life, but it’s really not so solid.
a difference of just a few centimeters in height is enough to detect time dilation
I’m sorry, what?
https://youtu.be/hzLTgtFaPLY?si=QOJa4sQJ6Aqijhjn
You can skip to about 3 minutes for the relevant experiment, it’s wild. They also talk about the GPS stuff in that video.
