It can be low effort, passive-aggressive, insulting or derogatory towards your convictions.

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    I saw a horrible gift get thwarted by a game shop owner who thankfully gave a shit. 40ish year old woman was shopping for her son, “oh Superman 64? Is that a good one?”

    Dude didn’t mince words. Told her flat out it was the worst game on the 64

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      I’m vegan and the number of people who can’t figure out “no animal products” is astounding. I’m so tired of “no eggs? No dairy?” like yes bitch, I don’t fuck with animals.

      People act like it’s rocket science.

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        People act like it’s rocket science.

        There’s always going to be a question as to where you draw the line. For example, is it okay to eat figs, even though they’re pollinated by wasps that end up in them? Is it okay to eat plants grown using animal products as fertilizer? Is it okay to eat cultured meat that is many generations removed from a living animal, such that none of the material present now was part of the living animal? How about things in the animal kingdom, but outside the chordates? The ones you’d need a microscope to see? Is honey okay to eat?

        There’s also the issue that other people that call themselves vegan will disagree with you on what all counts.

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          It’s usually not that complex. If someone has a plate chilaquiles with egg on it and I’m say I’m vegan, I don’t think it’s hard to discern that I’m probably not going to eat it.

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            Egg is obvious if you know what the difference is between vegetarian and vegan in the first place, but I don’t think you can expect most people to be able to cook vegan food, even if they’re trying, and know the basic definition. I know enough non-obvious uses of animal products(like shellac on fruit), that I’d have no confidence in being able to avoid them all unless I grew everything myself.

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        To be fair, the person you’re responded to said “vegetarian” not “vegan.” But yes, otherwise, it isn’t rocket science. My vegan boys are big fans of seitan.

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          How could I forget? It always blows people’s minds that I don’t eat fish, but before I was vegan I never liked fish anyway but no one had a problem with it until I went vegan.

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      I used to receive a lot of Starbucks gift cards and can only drink so much coffee, so I would sell the codes using an online gift card trade site. I forget which specific one I used, but there are several sites when you search up “sell gift cards.” I used to get like $0.70 per dollar or so, which isn’t terrible when you’re a broke college kid. Can’t pay rent in gift cards lol

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      Are you full vegan or just vegetarian?

      If it’s for Ouback Steakhouse, you could always have a Bloomin Onion if you’re okay with eggs and milk.

      But otherwise, yeah, not much else on the menu for ya.

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        Don’t forget salad. Outback is largely one of the worst if you’re vegetarian unfortunately. Most steakhouses at least have a few vegetable sides and can make a meal out of them.

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      This is so funny to me! My wife recently got mad at me for comments I made on our anniversary. When I explained what I meant, she was totally fine. Communication is hard sometimes.

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        Yeah I’d agree with that, but this is different. She was trying to help with what she saw as my ignorance about how much more positively people respond when you follow certain social rules.

        She’s a northern German woman who used to run a car dealership. I listen to punk rock. We get along but the things we value in life are pretty disparate.

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        “No honey, I was referring to that female dog… and was saying that you can’t not you’re a c-

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    Toothpaste and a toothbrush.

    I do now understand the financial problems my family had at the time, but for a child it still was a major bummer. Nevermind me being an only and a Christmas child.

    Being poor and lonely made Christmas the worst time of the year: no real celebrations like other kids have and my friends were spending time with their families. It was always the loneliest holiday.

    I don’t hold any resentment to my parents, they did what they could with what they had and they weren’t bad people ultimately.

    I still don’t like Christmas, but my SO does make it something to look forward to. I like thinking of little gifts to get them and watch their reaction. This year I made several oversized t-shirts for sleeping with vinil prints of our cats. It’s cheesy as fuck, but in a good way. I like getting gifts as well tho 😅.

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    My mom’s boyfriend got me this huge present that just fit under the tree, the gift was pretty heavy. I racked my brain trying to figure out what it was, had no idea. Got to be honest i was a little hyped up to open this thing, even though my opinion of the boyfriend was average

    Christmas day I finally get to find out what it is. open the box and it was a Microwave; a second hand microwave. He had replaced his, wasn’t even a good microwave (5 minutes to boil a cup of water) Mom already had a microwave and i was 14 years old.

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    My sister gifted me the third book of a fantasy trilogy series once.
    I never read or got the first two books.

    Also, when I was little, my grandma (who hated me with passion) bought me a pink bike just to piss me off, because she thought a boy wouldn’t ever like that color. I rode that bike until I was too tall to use it and every time she saw me enjoying that thing she was furious. :)

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      The propensity for you and your grandma to both act out of spite for one another is impressively high. Its good to have proof you’re related

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      My grandma once gifted me volume 21 of a manga I didn’t even own a single volume of. All she knew was that I like that japanese comic thing so she bought a random one at the book store.

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        For their sake i hope it wasn’t, Ender’s Game is possibly the greatest example of deservedly famous book 1 and equally deservedly forgotten rest of the series.

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      Why did she hate you with such passion ?

      And why didnt she think about spray paint ?

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        She always called me “the bastard” because I had a different father than my sisters.
        That was enough of a reason to hate me, I guess. 🤷

        It was definitely intentional of her to gift me a “girls” bike and she didn’t expect me to actually like it.
        She also pulled stunts like gifting me and my sisters money on Christmas, but I got 10€ and they got 50€ each. My mum always equally split the whole money afterwards.

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    A sack of potatoes and cat litter.

    From my mom who usually shops year round for Christmas to save the hassle of buying at the end of the year.

    My siblings got stuff that they wanted and could use and I got… Those two things in a very flimsy laundry basket.

    She did not approve of my girlfriend and probably me living with her.

    They weren’t even wrapped.

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    I’ve lucked out and haven’t gotten anything that bad. My mother in law is weirdly obsessed with making sure everyone gets the exact same number of gifts so sometimes I get some truly random junk lol. She got me (or maybe my wife) a Toy Story 3 Pizza Planet branded Pizza… Maker? Idk. Imagine a waffle iron but for pizza. We have an oven. Idk. I guess it’s for college kids in dorms without full kitchens? We just don’t have the counter space for it. It’s sat in the box. Our kitchen is very tiny. We already have a bunch of counter top appliances and don’t have room for another. And why take it out of the box when we have an oven?

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    Too small clothes so I’d be excited to go on a diet and lose weight… as an already very sick underweight teen with an eating disorder who wasn’t a wize zero “but you’ll get there”

    Paulo Cohelo’s garbage books to “help me with my constant depression that keeps bringing everyone down and you like books, no?”

    Stuffed animal toy thay was first intended for a baby shower but the mom didn’t want it so “why should it go to waste if you can have it as a birthday present”

    Plastic surgery offering as a sweet sixteen present “so you can feel beautiful”

    Professional acne treatment (Accutane) as a birthday present because “Oh you poor thing need it”

    A used and stained old yellow blouse “because it will make you look happier” I hate yellow.

    And the list goes on lol. That was growing up and it is one of the many reasons why I am no contact with all of those people.

    Now as an independent adult in a stable loving relaionship surrounded by nice genuine friends, I actually get very thoughtful and beautiful gifts. Some expensive, some with no monetary cost.

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      Interesting glimpses into a fucked up childhood via presents. Good for you that these times are over.