I’m trans
Hi Trans, I’m Dad!
There’ll be loved ones to tell someday.
Mom here. I’m proud of you. 💖
Well that’s a shame. They oughta be folks you can be yourself around
Your drinking is ruining our relationship, and your relationships with your grandkids.
I have a good relationship with my dad now but that wasn’t always the case. It’s too long a story for this comment but I’ve confronted him a few times over the years about various things. On one such occasion, he said something to the effect of, “Why don’t my kids ever want anything to do with me?”
I said, " I love you Dad, but you’re an angry dick about everything and you always have been. Would you want to spend time with your dad if he was like that?" His dad was exactly like that. He didn’t say anything but I knew I struck a nerve. He’s worked on himself a lot and is a much, much better grandpa than he was a father.
I don’t know your situation and you can’t change your family members behavior. That’s on them. But sometimes it’s ok to let them know what their behavior is doing to everyone else around them. They may not understand that. And if they do and just don’t care, then they’ll have to deal with the consequences.
That’s great advice, thank you. I’ll have to relay it to my sister since she’s the one actually dealing with it since I moved out of state like 20 years ago and rarely go home. Maybe we’ll have to gang up on him/have an intervention. It’s just hard to catch his ass sober.
I could tell them I get wasted every Friday and no one would bat an eye…but my mom would have a heart attack if she found out I’ve ever been in the same room with marijuana. I’m in my 30s. Some things are better left as secrets
The devil’s lettuce!
JAZZZZZ CIGARETTES
Electric cabbage
The ironic part is that her favorite relative outside of our immediate family is my cousin who I learned - to no surprise of my own - smokes a TON of weed.
I have no reason to hide it from my dad but…what’s the point? Even if he doesn’t tell my mom, we’re not gonna share a joint or anything
I can’t feel empathy and the only reason why I am sad when you are sad is because I’ve learned that faking it makes you happier.
So you do something for no reason for the benefit of someone who is suffering while you are not suffering? How empathetic lmao
Wouldn’t that just be sympathy?
Trivial distinction. they recognize someone is hurting. who started this whole symp/emp divide? it literally never comes up in counseling school
Who started this? Highschool level psych 101 classes. Its an easy distinction to teach kids about psychopathy/sociopathy but reality can be a little more nuanced. I also imagine that counseling is about treating emotionally damaged people with the idea they can improve mentally not instantly judging them ‘oh well youre an unfeeling psychopath monster and always will be because you didn’t have empathy for this person in this situation’
Not for no reason, for the good of the other person is the reason.
That’s not empathy, it’s altruism.
Dexter
“hit me up on Grindr for some good bussy.”
I tried to kill myself. Twice. I would either have to deal with my old man’s shit or break my mom’s heart, neither of which I could tolerate.
I’m sorry you were in that position, and I hope you’re doing much better now?
I’m glad you’re still here, yes, you will break your parents heart.
I’ve known too many young men that took their own life, and the aftermath is life changing for the entire family and friends, but mainly the family.
I hope you’re doing well, and whoever you are, you’re in my thoughts
Stay strong. 🤗 . I hope you are keeping well
I am choosing between living with them and homelessness. Otherwise, I would be anywhere else.
That’s harsh man, that must feel awful.
That I’m not doing as well as I thought I might be doing.
Nice try, Honey!
I don’t want to be around you.
I wouldn’t tell my loved one that because I DO want to be around her.
You’re all annoying, some a lot more than others.
I’ll likely retire before my parents, aunts and uncles. I won’t tell them, I"ll just stop working and if they ask, I will say I’m an investment manager. Boomers and Gen X were shit with their finances, I guess.
I’m genuinely struggling to think of anything. I don’t have a lot of loved ones but define them with the criteria “I can be my true self around them”.
I have definitely lost loved ones because they couldn’t come to terms with who I am (pansexual). Many people hate you for being bi, let alone pan. My sympathies to all those who have to hide, have been there. I’ve lived in rough places where I couldn’t even allow a smidgeon of my true self to emerge, and it kills the soul.
I don’t mean to be offensive, but what is the difference between bi and pan? It always seemed a meaningless term because bi already covers basically everything.
Not the person you were asking, but I can provide an answer. Pansexual generally means attraction to people regardless of gender - sort of gender blind. A bi person (like me) might find that the attraction they experience to different genders is shaped differently, qualitatively — or the magnitude of attraction may be different — like if you were a 1 on the Kinsey scale, which means “predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual”. Someone who’s pan is more likely to be a 3 on the Kinsey scale, but also, it’s possible to be bi and a 3, and that’s subtly different.
There aren’t set rules on this, it mostly comes down to what terms resonate with people. I’m someone to whom pansexual as a label could apply, but I identify as bisexual because that was the word that made me go “wait, this is a thing that’s possible?”. The terms people use are often rooted in history, personal or otherwise.
It’s trickier to explain the lexical niche when I myself am not pan. It’s like if you’re working on a project and have someone passing you tools, and you reach a step that needs a particular spanner, of which you have two. You ask for one of those spanners, but despite it fitting many of your requirements on paper, it isn’t quite right for what you’re trying to do. You try the other spanner and it’s perfect. Keeping both spanners is probably useful because on simple jobs, they are interchangeable, but when getting into nuanced, complex situations, having the choice is useful.
By this, I mean that I have also had the thought that “[Pansexual] seemed a meaningless term because bi already covers basically everything”, but when you’re talking to someone about different spanners and they say “that one isn’t the same as that one. I need the other one”, it’s generally wisest to assume that this person has some insight that you don’t have on these spanners, or their particular use cases — who am I to tell people what tools are most useful for them, after all? Like a lot of identity stuff, it’s hard to explain, but it matters a lot to some people.
what the other guy said. it’s different for everyone. But some part of me identifying as bi not as pan is also self-reflective. It’s because it’s the term I want. Like how someone can be Alexander, Alex, Al, Xander, AJ… yet we don’t question the difference, we just instinctively understand it’s a preference.
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Any one of you could die today and I may not even find out, and most likely won’t care.
I should clarify that I can’t tell my loved ones this because it’s not true. No offense, but I don’t know you and don’t expect you to feel any different about me.
