Gonna need to be a full on poly commune at this rate if prices keep going up.
Poly people are just Muslims in denial
You could room without the fucking, but I mean, have you seen streaming prices?
Polymisery
Looks like name for next TOOL album
r/theonepolyjoke
A silver lining on this black cloud
I’d be down regardless tbh
mood. when youre poly af but also forever alone af
Who up to join the polycule
Or just a co-op house so we don’t feel obligated to copulate with each other, which we could do any ways in a co-op but only if we actually want to.
I think there’s this common misconception that poly means everyone is bangging everyone & my experience is the the intimate connections tend to be radial & not closed loops. A sorts of ‘tribe’ structure.
IMO that’s the way it should be, rather then this fractured, boxed up society we have today.
It’s worse than that. When you look at the status quo through the lens of capitalism, we’re all very strongly aligned with maximum extraction of personal wealth. Everyone is at peak personal inefficiency by everyone having/owning one of everything, as we constantly bleed income to other parties. In other words: we’d all be richer if we shared more stuff and were less territorial about things that don’t matter.
TL;DR: everything we should be doing is stuff we learned in the sandbox as kids.
Yep, it is inherent in human identity and it’s absence is the likely cause of many, many mental health issues. The social structure of pre-
contactforced christian re-education of indigenous tribes is the product of hundreds of thousands of years of people just straight chilling and is, imo, the natural state of human social structures without the fuckery of abrahamic religions.UBC TEFA Talks Two Spirit with Harlan Pruden:
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nobody should ever feel obligated to copulate in any relationship :c
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All three in my triad are ADHD no one else cares enough to try to understand us but we have eachother.
We’re getting closer and closer to wrapping back around and just having community. Just remove the sex aspect and boom you got a community going.
you ever wonder if communities typically did just have a bunch of sex but revisionism happened
Basically “samesies” skit lmao
but revisionism happened
The spotless translation of countless scrolls, tablets, and old books make this clear. They were all just roommates. Nothing to see here.
I’d guess they did, but I have no way to prove it. Let’s build some and find out.
For most of the existence of human species (according to the scholarly consensus of anthropologists) we existed in bands of adults who would intermingle freely. Adolescent men would raid nearby tribes and kidnap their young women, which is the means by which genes were exchanged between tribes.
All the monogamy and licensing happened after agriculture and the great leap forward once tribes became big enough that infectious diseases were no longer contained through pure isolation. We see the misogynistic trends rise in late Hellenic periods and then Christianity cranked it up to eleven, so now we imagine even our migrant hunter-gatherer ancestors paired off.
As a note, during the middle ages, it was super important among aristocracy to assure ladies-in-waiting were virginal before they were wed, and then used purely as heir machines, but the serf class routinely banged like bunnies in springtime. And while frowned upon by the more piety-minded clergy, it was generally ignored because a) Child mortality was something awful and every kid that ever reached majority was to be celebrated, and b) The labor shortage was extreme everywhere. There was always way too much stuff to be done, and so every pair of hands was welcome, even when they were attacked to an idiot, a malformed hunchback, a ne’er-do-well or the bastard progeny of a mixed coupling.
Curiously, as we see in the birth of Mordred, pre-Christian European traditions included suspending adultery limitations during holidays, which happened at least once a season, sometimes twice. So even in societies where monogamy was the norm, there was a defined space for getting a bit on the side. (Useful when your partner was infertile.)
So yeah. Right in one.
This is a great write up.
Do you have any books/sources to recommend on this subject?
I’ve always been interested in klans persisting in the Middle East but dying out in Europe due (I’m told) to the Catholic church.
Any interesting sources would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you, for being the expert when we needed one.
You’re welcome to what I know, though I’m just someone who’s read more than a little pop-science. I’m not accredited or anything.
Source for the whole kidnapping aspect?
The Roman historian Livy writing around 0 AD attests to “the rape of the Sabine Women”, wherein the founders of Rome kidnapped and raped women from surrounding villages, which may just be mythological but is likely a factor in this concept being so prevalent.
As a constrast, though, Madagascar was settled by a mix of Bantu and Indonesian (Austronesian) people, and genetic analysis suggests a founding group of at least 30 women from Indonesia, who almost certainly weren’t stolen from across the Indian Ocean.
even when they were attacked to an idiot, a malformed hunchback, a ne’er-do-well or the bastard progeny of a mixed coupling.
The serfs probably become more fit than the nobility over time because they had far more evolutionary pressure and diversity. The bloodline rules limited the nobility more than anything. One capable person doesn’t change much genetically in the grand scheme of things. Nepotism and inequality are anti-meritocratic.
The loop-de-loop
Royal families are just so sad and pathetic. Ultimately, everyone is worse off, even them.
Adolescent men would raid nearby tribes and kidnap their young women, which is the means by which genes were exchanged between tribes.
We see the misogynistic trends rise in late Hellenic periods
hmmm
Yeah, adolescence is weird, and some of this is guessing based on other primates. Gorillas, for example, evict familiar adolescent females shortly after puberty while welcoming strange adolescent females, which informs how we model the behavior of pre-agriculture migratory human tribes.
(I should add we don’t presume that it was the same everywhere either, so it’s quite possible that some prehistorical humans had different means of managing their teens than sending the boys off to wage war and letting the girls get kidnapped in kind by raiders. Once we go that far back, we have to rely on archeological data, which is very selective in the tales it tells.)
So then, there are some powerful goddesses in early Hellenism, for instance, Aphrodite (commonly a goddess of love and beauty), evolved from Astarte (Lover, Healer, Hunter, Warrior) who developed from Ishtar. In fact, when Aphrodite emerged from the sea foam on Kytherian beaches, Phoenician traders were coming to the Kytherian harbors, not only bringing goods and their own goddess, Astarte but also the modern Greek alphabet (before which the locals were using Linear B). So we have a path from Ishtar and this major poly-faceted goddess being reduced to a love goddess, who is then married to Hephaestus (the crippled forge) to put her in her place.
Also curious to me is Dread Persephone who ruled the dead and the underworld long before Hades appears on scene. (Poseidon was the Olympian in Chief, and we see part of his gig in creating biodiversity, not just all the creatures of the sea, but also those of the land). Zeus and Hades were added late in the game, and the stories we have of Persephone, specifically of the abduction of Persephone from Demeter and the thing with the six pomegranate seeds comes from a single poem. Even then, winter comes not because Persephone is gone, but because Demeter is sad about it, and stops doing her job. So Persephone’s role is to be mom’s co-dependent emotional-support assistant during springtime, and go back to attending the dead.
So here we have two examples of powerful goddesses that influenced the Hellenic people and culture who are then shoved backstage with the addition of Zeus and Hades.
There’s a similar event that I remember from Snow Crash by Neil Stephenson regarding Asherah, the consort to Adonai / Elohim / Yahweh. Asherah was always the ambitious one between the two, and the Canaanite temples to her were bigger and more numerous than the ones to Adonai. Eventually an ideological rift developed and the Hebrews raided all the Asheran temples, massacring the acolytes and burning them to the ground. The whole don’t boil a calf in the milk of its mother thing (which informs the separation of meat products and milk products in kosher diet) is a specific reference to an Asheran ritual meal, I think for weddings, but I’m not sure.
While I can’t speak to whether misogyny is innate, I can say we’ve had periods in which goddesses were accepted alongside gods and in some cases were on top of the pantheon. We don’t talk much about Gaea anymore even though in Hellenism she created everything on earth long before Poseidon was tinkering with horses. I think there’s a division between Dionysian culture and Apollonian culture which parallels the shift from chthonic religion to celestial religion. (Chthonic gods are not to be confused with Cthonian gods, who are 20th century, and definitely celestial).
I can say that in the middle ages and the domination of Christianity, women were completely unpersoned and regarded as chattel beasts (despite their capacity to think and talk, both of which was discouraged). Even Mary, mother of Jesus was not even given due recognition until the 12th century.
Is there a Community on Lemmy about stuff like this?
I followed a bunch of History/Archeology-Related subreddits to lurk out of interest, but didn’t find anything good here on Lemmy
Maybe the treasure was the community we formed as we had all the sex.
This is incredibly common in SF. Many people live in co-ops and it’s created an entire subculture where they coordinate large parties and events both within the co-op and with other co-ops. It’s gone beyond necessity and become preferred by some because they enjoy living with lots of others. Not my thing, but many friends live in co-ops and love it.
This is like half the point of polyamory
The polyamory will continue until we can form a ska band.
Polyskamory
My favourite pokemon
My brain read skeksis instead of ska. And now I can’t help but picture a band made up of giant, overly-dressed, wrinky old birds rocking out in a dank cave.
Could we still have a pen & paper RPG group?
what do you think ska bands do when they’re done pickin’ it up?
The real answer
Re-establishment of clans and tribes will soon become an economic necessity for the poor. Unions would of course be better, but I’m not holding my breath.
Read Neal Stephenson’s “The Diamond Age.”
Book has a lot of idea, but one of them ios that the old nations have broken down and people become part of clans, some small and some nation sized.
It’s also a fairly good introduction to programming logic.
“Go pick up a loaf of bread. If they have eggs, get a dozen.”
“Here are the 12 loves of bread you wanted.”
Counterpoint: Clan night raids with fire & steal on the local oligarchs & tyrants.
Realistically, it will be poor tribes vs poor tribes more often than not.
Instantly reminded me of The Moon is a Harsh Mistress by Robert A. Heinlein.
And the polyam belta fam from The Expanse
I would absolutely be down for having three boyfriends but guys never really seem to be into it that way.
Look for bi guys then?
Most women I know also feel the same way i.e. they don’t want multiple partners but their boyfriend does
Is polyamory just a joke to you? It’s fine to be uncomfortable with the concept, be monogamous if you like, but treating it as a joke and calling it disgusting isn’t very nice
Find me two twinks that look breedable and submissive.
Beyond that I also feel like the dating pool is just super small. Me and my partner have been poly for 4 years and still don’t have any other consistent partners.
I don’t want to be Poly at ALL. I just want three boyfriends.
That’s being poly
I love that society just reinvented harems and slapped a new label on it.
Not reinvented. Just categorized. Harems would be a form of polygamous relationship. There are tons of different forms of poly relationships, including cheating while in a “monogamous” relationship.
That’s actually really cool and shows just how different polyamory can be
This shit right here is why I’m not poly… it was a fucking joke your crowd has never been able to understand humor. God. Way to make me feel gross about the whole thing and ruin it.
I’m autistic & tend to take statements with minimal social cues at face value, also I’m willing to bet money autistic people are over represented among poly people. I didn’t intend to make you feel gross but how do you think your joke made me feel?
LMAO these kids today are going to be left so fkin confused about reality. It’s as if it’s better that they get married by the age of 15 just so they can avoid all the crazies out there who will eventually turn them into the crazies out there.
Get this weaksauce, lame, half-assed attempt at building divisive speech outta my house. Troll harder or go home.
Let me guess, you’re also against “identity politics” because it will “confuse the kids”
When did Matt Gaetz join Lemmy?
Are you saying you want three boyfriends but for them to not be allowed to date anyone besides you? Because that’s called a harem and I don’t know anyone…male, female, or otherwise…who would be interested in something so inequitable.
If you’d not have a problem with your three boyfriends having other partners, then that is literally being polyamorous.
It the boyfriends didn’t know about the arrangement it would just be cheating.
Multiple wives might get you greater revenue but they have higher expenses.
Men, if you want more net savings, don’t get multiple wives. Just get one husband. Problem solved. The gays figured out how to game the wage gap long ago. Lesbians still have trouble though.
Very much agree. Plus dicks are fun to play with! Right? I mean we all play with ours while sleeping in the dog h…couch! Right? But I think lesbians do better too.
30%•2
The math checks out.
Yo straight up all my gay and lesbian couple friends are rich AF though haha. One lesbian couple owns like 50 acres and a fuckin ranch mansion in Texas that’s easily worth $5Mn + their livestock. My buddy Joey owns like 5 houses in 3 countries and lives in the Caribbean. He def figured it out.
Interestingly though, on average, gay and lesbian married couples both make more money than heterosexual married couples.
Probably because a lot, if not the majority of LGBT couples are DINKs. Makes it a lot easier to focus on career/education when kids aren’t around.
Ive never heard the term “DINK” What is that?
DINK - Dual income no kids
Also males can stack neatly in bed