My girlfriend loves the little trinkets and doodads I run off for her. I gave her a little tree that holds her jewelry and she got all moony and immediately asked for a couple more. She also loves watching the machine run, almost as much as I do. n=1 but some girls find 3d printing incredibly romantic.
Cooking is my love language. I’m also a sole provider.
… grabs accordion…
Tl;dr: any interest is interesting and attractive. In particular if it can be done without annoying your partner and shows your ability to think independently. If it produces something useful that’s cool, too.
Interested people are interesting.
When does cooking stop counting as a basic day to day survival thing and start counting as a hobby?
When you start to have to worry about them finding out you’ve out-pizzad the hut.
Yeah I burn the kids out of pizza and calzone for awhile when I got into pizza making. I had to try many different ways to make it so we ate it everyday for a week.
When you worry about the brand of the olive oil you use and the cost, (over $100 per knife), of your kitchen knives. And your stove is a $4000 induction model with 2 ovens.
Source: My one Son-in-law. But the son-of-a-bitch CAN really cook!
I have two Kitchenaid mixers, and all my specialty tools. Cooking and baking can definitely be a hobby. We have the meals to survive. Then we have the shit I make that tskes a list of ingredients a mile long and all day to accomplish. But goddamm they are some great food.
That brings up an interesting thought.
Am I a cooking enthusiast because I spend time hunting/fishing/foraging wild ingredients? Many of my neighbors do some foraging and hunt and fish also. (I live on a lake in the middle of a very large forest). Or does the fact I made 10lbs of home smoked Canadian bacon in my own smoker this fall make me a cooking enthusiast? Maybe the breads I sometimes bake? Or the hand harvested and then parched over a wood fire wild rice I traded some of my bacon for from my one neighbor?
Am I a cooking hobbyist? Or am I just cooking to survive? Where is the line drawn?
Not sure depends. If you didn’t do any of that would you still survive?
Would I survive? Perhaps not so well. Everything I forage or hunt and fish for reduces the amount of dollars spent on buying groceries. And a good portion of what we eat you can’t buy in a store.
The second part of that comment sounds like you are a culinary enthusiast not a survivalist. Like, I grow stuff in the garden to get better, fresher foods and varieties I don’t see in the store, and also for the local bees Saving money is secondary(tertiary?), though I think at this point the lines may have crossed and we are saving some money. I do it because I like good food.
If I lived where there was more to forage, you can bet your ass I would be foraging too. Wild food is awesome.
Why would you need 2 mixers? That’s an honest question, I’m really curious.
One got the second on sale, and when baking cakes easier and faster with 2. But also last time I baked a cake and was making cookies. Having 2 mixers was awesome for that.
Jokes on you, my knife cost me $40 in steel, wood, brass, and sanding belts because I make my OWN knives for my cooking.
You know, I think I might just have two hobbies and one saved me money on the other…
What about the cost of the grinder, HT furnace, drill and drill bits, and anvil and hammers? Are you really sure you saved any money? /jk
Keep banging them out!
Rule number 1: never talk about the cost of tools.
When you stop using boxed pasta.
I bought pasta maker but haven’t used it yet. But I am ready to make my own Ramen.
Dried pasta is far superior to fresh pasta for most dishes.
[Insert the graph meme]
Dried pasta ----- homemade pasta ---- Dried pasta
Fresh pasta basically only if you’re wanting to stuff pasta or make some shape you can’t buy
There are a surprising amount of old kids that can’t even boil water for pasta. No one looking to date wants to date an old kid they need to take care of. (Some people do, but burnout is real)
In my experience most adults can boil pasta.
… And boil it… And boil it… And DEAR GOD TAKE IT OFF THE STOVE AND DRAIN IT BEFORE IT BECOMES MUSH!
When you are making everything from scratch, cooking becomes a hobby. You can make tacos and buy a salsa from the store and make some good tacos, but when you are making the salsa and thinking that you should add just a bit more of something, you are in hobby territory.
Smoking meats is a hobby. To get dinner ready, you start at 3am and tend the firebox all day. You try different rubs, woods, and techniques to make the product of your craft the best it can be.
Making pizza from scratch is a hobby. You make may make dozens of pizzas to just get the sauce, dough, or crust right.
Following a recipe to make something is not a hobby unless it is just a starting point in something you wish to refine and make your own.
Smoking meats is a hobby. To get dinner ready, you start at 3am and tend the firebox all day. You try different rubs, woods, and techniques to make the product of your craft the best it can be.
3am?!? What tiny little brisket are you doing at 225 to start that late? You’ve got to leave time for it to rest.
Ok, in all seriousness this is one of my main hobbies. By that I mean I do it often and I’ve stuck with it for years while other hobbies have come and gone. I’ve got a couple of offset smokers, a drum smoker that I built, and a pellet smoker when I don’t have the time to tend the firebox but still want to smoke something.
I said all that to say this: there are plenty of people who couldn’t give two shits about smoking meats who absolutely come ask me questions about it. Not because I’m the best, and not because they want it to be their hobby. But because I’m excited to talk about it. I also tend to bring full plates with me for my friends (and usually a couple of extras) so they get the benefit of having food.
I’ve also had women ask if they can come hang out next time I crank up the smoker. It’s an easy way in for someone who wouldn’t normally be confident enough to approach you.
I agree with all but the last part.
Following a recipe can absolutely be a hobby. You can take a lot of enjoyment out of it, and it’s even useful.
I wouldn’t say it’s an art, but it’s definitely a hobby.
Cooking qs a Hobby is not throwing together a Quick meal, but actually making an effort to cook. I.e. trying new things, cooking homemade pizza or even a roast.
Exactly, I am always looking for new and exciting things to try. Also subscribe to shit ton of cooking channels on YouTube, and blogs. Also subscribe to a magazine subscription which I was exited that I could still do that. Also have a ton of cook books and always looking for more.
“throwing together a quick meal” should have it’s own word.
“cooking” to me implies you’re working on something worth the time it takes, something you want to put effort into.
But when I just got home, nothing is easy to make and I have to throw something quick together, it doesn’t feel like really cooking to me. Like im half assing it, it should have a half-assed name.
My kids love these meals and I’m not sure why. I usually say “watch me pull a rabbit out of this hat!” and throw something together. Unless it’s a stir fry, they don’t like that. But a leftover baked potato becoming home fries with eggs and the half a tomato and half an onion from the fridge? The leftover cabbage going into the last handful of lentils for a stew? Casserole of leftover pasta, odds and ends with cheese, topped with bread crumbs? They are so happy with these oddball meals for some reason, and I think if you can make something with whatever you have, that IS a valuable cooking skill.
when you worry about “plating”
I placed the thing in a plate. It’s plated now.
But yeah, I get your point.
The difference between “cooking” and “hobby cooking” :
I used to be a heartthrob like you, but then I took an arrow to the knee.
And now I’m 89.5% sexier!
underrated comment xD
It’s a shame being attractive is the most important thing about being attractive lol
I’m into cooking, astronomy, photography (astrophotography), and hiking. Used online dating (listed all those things) for almost 10 years and went on something like 7 dates. Still single lol I just gave up about a year ago
I have a few in that list too and yeah, online dating is really rough. I’ve had way more success meeting people IRL. Now that I’m a proper adult though, my hobbies don’t really expose me to meeting new people and that’s where it gets extra hard. Still haven’t found a solution to get me out into public to meet people, friends or dating.
That’s a pretty big issue of mine as well. I’m 38 and I live around a sea of old people. Not only is where I live too expensive for people my age, but there isn’t really anything to do where you could meet someone. I have absolutely no interest in going to a bar, I don’t even drink anymore.
Online dating is the most damaging and predatory thing for man. I think at this point research shows quite clearly that is very detrimental for men’s mental health
Can confirm.
If self worth would have a numerical value, before online dating mine was in the single digits, maybe teens, out of 100. After, it’s deep in the negatives.
No amount of desirable hobbies will ever make up for ugly. If you’re handsome then your hobbies are considered cute and they are markers of your creativity. If you are ugly then those same hobbies are evidence that you are a dweeb, goober, dork, or weird.
Woodworking 94%. Right.
Try ordering a new lathe after you’re married.
I have a friend who’s very attracted to her husband’s woodworking. Mind you he’s a world class artisan for equipment for a shared hobby of theirs, but still, she’s very supportive of his lathe purchases.
That’s because the deal has already been sealed. They typically wanna keep you off the market, not increase your “resale” value. Unless you’re into that kinda thing. Like, cucking or sharing kinda kinks, not human trafficking. Human trafficking isn’t sexy. Unless you’re into that kind of thing. Like, as a fantasy, not as a real thing. Real human trafficking isn’t sexy. Unless you’re into that kinda thing. Like, as in humans stuck in traffic or transforming into cars and being stuck in traffic, not as being sold as a commodity. Unless you’re into that kind of thing.
Reading this as I’m waking up and really questioning if I’m actually awake or not
It kind of reads like the thought process of someone who just woke up, too.
If you are into that kind of thing
what
Wow really put something in for everyone with that comment.
Hey if I were married to you I would support your hobbies and interests. I’d want you to be happy.
Lathes are expensive though, so if there expense were to come from our shared account we would need to have a discussion first.
What do you mean Linux is not in the list?
“I’m really looking for a guy who can self host a matrix instance”
sploosh
Then when you meet her you can’t the service up. “I swear I’ve never had this happen before”
“I have 99,99% uptime I swear!”
When you propose it comes with an SLA
Imagine when they find out you run your own media server. Bad boys out there downloading videos without licenses about to pop off on dating sites because no one can afford the “Netflix” part of netflix and chill
That usually counts towards having enough money for half of the hobbies listed.
It’s there right at number one, reading. Nobody reads more wikis or man pages than a Linux enjoyer.
man touchdate; wine; cd ~; talk; touch; unzip; touch; strip; gasp; finger; gasp; mount; fsck; nice; more; yes; gasp; man paste; eject; gasp; umount; make clean; sleepcat is watching you the whole time, judging…
Art 👌
Human contact?
Ewww, no.
Humans? Disgusting.
Furries? OwO!
I read, write, and cook, and can play several instruments (kazoo, mouth harp, washboard, tamborine,…). Where’s the women that find me attractive?
We keep telling you that you gotta stop winking when you tell people you play the mouth harp.
the trick is that you have to find them instead of just waiting for one to pop out of the ether
Well that’s some bullshit. 😠
Wait, are you not the blue name guy? Why is your name normal?
(edit: It is because of voyager lol)
They added tags and took away my actual flair. 😔
You’re still beautiful on Thunder for android
Not on thunder beta lol
What do you mean?
Voyager recently added user tags (allows you to label other users) but the app also doesn’t appear to use the display name option available in Lemmy (or at least no one has it enabled from the screenshots I’ve seen posted), so it just shows the username you use to log in, which doesn’t have special characters.
My display name is my username, but spelled using emojis in case you don’t see it that way, either.
Oh, I see. Voyager doesn’t show that because display names are confusing for mentions, can be used to impersonate, and distracting. It might be an option to enable in the future, off by default.
Edit:
Claim
To clarify how I really feel, here’s my hot take:
display_nameis a really awful feature and should be removed from Lemmy.Why?
They are dangerous by default because the very concept implies that clients should render
display_nameinstead of the username, if it exists. Which is unwise: Apps have to choose between replacing (bad for impersonation/UX/distraction reasons) and showing both (which just looks duplicative most of the time).What makes this feature even more frustrating is that people are now using display names for their username + flairs of actually important things, like gender identities. (for example,
display_name="Alex (he/his)")It’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation for Lemmy clients. Some people are using
display_namefor important info like gender identities, and yetdisplay_nameis so incredibly easy to impersonate people and otherwise abuse.Solution?
What is the solution? I think Lemmy should ditch
display_nameand replace withflair(or something like this). The general idea is thatflairis NOT a replacement for your username, but rather it will be displayed alongside it.Maybe even make flair per-community like Reddit. I think that was a much better design than what Lemmy currently has.
Nothing more sexy than a mouth harp (I always knew it as a jaw harp and have three) uwu
Just outside of you FOV. If you spin fast enough, you’re bound to see them.
(kazoo, mouth harp, washboard, tamborine,…)
On Barq?
I read, write, cook, paint, swim, travel, and hike, and last gardening. I should be rolling in it. But my wife finds me sexy so I got that going for me.
What about editing Windows registry? What does that rank? Hkey local machine?
Blacksmithing is 88% Was this list made by a metal shop kid?
“Oh babe, I love your soda lime mix. You’re not like those other brittle iron bitches out there”
“Brittle iron bitches” has been added to my dictionary of insults.
Sincerely
The Big Ductile Energy gang
I can not fathom how blacksmithing is LOWER on the list than reading. “The dude with the hammer looks nice, but that other one over there is sitting on a sofa for HOURS on end”
Reading demonstrates culturing, education, pursuit of knowledge, and willingness for good conversation. It’s also a hobby that can be practiced together (my wife and I have even devised a technique for how to best read books together)
Blacksmithing is one of the few hobbies that a guy probably can’t teach his girlfriend because women usually use a different technique to make up for strength differences. It’s hot for sure, but it’s hot in a “I’m going to watch you but it’s expensive in time and money, and I may wind up stuck selling at ren faires forever” way as opposed to a “even when we’re old we’ll still be discussing literature” way
It’s the first one isn’t it?
Lol, no. First person reads one chapter than we take turns reading two and passing the book. It keeps us excited and lets us talk about it as we go without major spoilers
Awwwwwwww
😍
I’m a woman, I can definitely learn to smith, and have done it a few times (I do reenactment, there’s basically guaranteed to be a few blacksmithsin every friend group). I definitely couldn’t do it for a living, but as an occasional hobby, sure.
And I haven’t met a guy into smithing who didn’t also like a fit partner, so hey.
It’s hot for sure,
Hehe
Oh I’m not disagreeing that we can learn. I’d just heard we tend to use a different technique than men, but I’ve never tried and none of my friends that are into sca are smiths so I was never taught otherwise.
Smithing is a hobby I’d love to take up if I had a lot of time, money, and trust from my wife that I won’t hurt myself
Blacksmithing is one of the few hobbies that a guy probably can’t teach his girlfriend because women usually use a different technique to make up for strength differences.
Me, a woman who tried blacksmithing before: Don’t use spring steel or other metals that are hard to manipulate/hammer into shape when starting off. Don’t start with a sword, start with bending and twisting a nail into… whatever. If they like the hobby they’ll stick to it and the muscle will build over time. And if it doesn’t: power tools.
Good to know, I’m a woman who’d apparently been misinformed but it is one of those things I’ve always wanted to try, but it’s not an ADHD “pick up every hobby” friendly one
but it’s not an ADHD “pick up every hobby” friendly one
That’s true. I was in luck and there was a blacksmith in town who opens his workshop to kids on occasion or travels to job conventions and brought his tools with him. Maybe there are comparable activities/ offers near you, which I can highly recommend. Not only will you not have to worry about tools and materials, most importantly there will be a “teacher” around.
If you find something and decide to check it out, have fun! :)
Maybe because reading is a sign of being intelligent/cultured in people’s mind, and people on average value that slightly more than physical fitness
Being handy is attractive. Getting a nice unique present is cool. And blacksmiths / woodworkers are the ones that do that kind of stuff.
So explain why IS 3D printing not higher on the list then?
Because downloading an stl and hitting print isn’t really craftsmanship
Yea, I would wonder why hobby engineering isn’t on the list, or something like ‘maker’ I think 3d printing as a stand alone is more of a support, it would be like, instead of woodworking, the hobby is ‘sawing’ it’s part of it, but engineering is what the hobby is actually.
Because a blacksmith, woodworker or a metalworker are all makers. Ultimately what matters is it is a highly skilled thing that triggers imagination and creates something out of “nothing”. Differentiating between those as hobbies is a matter of how often the hobby is chosen / represented online. There are more woodworkers than metalworkers. Less blacksmiths, so you think of “blacksmith” less when asked what’s “hot”.
I’m also willing to bet that the blacksmith they are picturing looks very different from your average blacksmith.
To be fair my limited experience with blacksmithing has given me the distinct impression that I would have magnificent arms if I did it regularly
While there’s some outliers especially thanks to power hammers, a dedicated blacksmith looks a lot closer to a strongman competitor than mr universe.
If you did it in the olde fashioneded way with a manual hammer, manually stoking the forge with a bellows, etc., then sure. But AFAIK modern blacksmithing is pretty similar to modern carpentry or welding or any other hobby where the machines do most of the work. It’s still a somewhat active hobby, compared to doing something with a computer. But, I don’t think a modern blacksmith is going to get huge arms from doing it.
I’ve met a TON of blacksmiths and they usually just look like normal guys but slightly more buff, often overweight. The machinery does most of the work.
I only know one guy who is into blacksmithing and - being a nerd myself, I saw this with kindness - but this dude is a super nerd. He’s also one of the scrawniest dudes I know. I’ve heard him tell women that he’s into blacksmithing before and it definitely does not have the desired effect that this chart would imply.
You always have to consider Rule #1 when taking these things into account.
- I’ve read books.
- In multiple languages.
- And I can read musical notes.
- I’m a capable home cook.
- I’ve built stuff. Assembling IKEA furniture counts, right?
- My mum still keeps most of my paintings.
- If you can read this, you know that I can write.
- I can cut down vegetation.
- I can even dive.
- Yes, I open the camera app daily.
- There’s an app for that as well.
- I’m wearing my backpack already.
- Five of the seven continents (as many of us understand them culturally), so far.
Which is why I have an orgy every night.
It’s weird that mechanical keyboard isn’t on the list
And yet, whenever I get a new keyboard or caps there is a nontrivial chance my wife will steal them.
Wow, that’s awesome
How are keyboards a hobby?
What’s your hobby?
Smartphones.
NO
For your own sanity and wallet, it is best that you do not investigate further.
If you haven’t fallen down the keyboard rabbit hole then you don’t know just how far it goes…
It very much can be a hobby costing thousands of dollars and resulting in several keyboard projects.
Hey guuurl my hobby is consumerism
Typed from my IBM 5251 beamspring
Nor gaming, nor drugs, nor watching TV/YouTube/Twitch, nor homelabbing… this is a wake-up call
what if I read a ton of books every day but it’s all manga and light novels. trashy ones
I read books about social studies and think I may fall into the same camp. What books do woman deem sexy?
Then you aren’t reading books you are reading comics
Are light novels comics?
No, but they are illustrated
Uhhh light novels are mostly text with maybe 5 illustrations in a 300pg book. Perhaps you’re thinking of manga?
No, that’s basically what I meant.
